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AApril 17th, 2010

#28

Do you have sometimes that feeling that you’re just disconnected from the world? When something terrible happens, for example the loss of a person, and time just seems to stop and everything just feels like in a haze. In just a couple of years I had to deal with a lot of deaths, and it never gets easier to me. It happened recently, a persno I looked up to passed away, and I was (and still am) very sad. It’s sort of difficult that I’ve had so many experiences of this kind, but the Boy had none, so he doesn’t fully understand how hard it is for me. But that’s ok. I don’t wish something like this to happen to him.

We’ve gotten a couple of comments about a former post, and I think I should repost something I wrote in a comment before:

Because of my culture and personal opinion, I consider us to be still too young and too early into the relationship to live together (one of the first options for LDR couples if they don’t have much money to relocate). Luckily Boy agrees with my position. However, we are both exploring options to be able to spend more than a couple of weeks in each other’s country (be it work, education, etc). In the spirit of keeping this blog as anonymous as we can, we prefer to not give much insight of issues that are stopping us right now from throwing our arms to the air and just be together physically (e.g.: we mention money problems, but we don’t specify much behind that point.). All that being said, yes, it is one of our long term goals (if not, we don’t see much of a point on being LDR) and we hope that sooner or later it will become true.

We don’t think jumping into marriage is a good way to solve problems. We don’t believe in just doing it to have the possibility to be in the same country. We want to first overcome those obstacles, and then if time and the feeling is right, may be.

Girl.

April 10th, 2010

#27

Okay I was gonna post about the sad stuff that has been going on but this is too much to ressist (I guess that’s a good sign).

The boy is a very messy person. VERY. And I’m the exact opposite. He leaves things on the floor, the only thing you’ll see on the floor with me are shoes if I haven’t got the time to put them in the closet. He leaves piles of clothes while I put them tidly in the hamper. Bags, dishes! Agh! Ever since we started talking, while we were just friends, I encouraged him to be more organized. What happens is that he’s organized when he’s in a good mood, but if he’s stressed out, his place starts to get messy. So I gave him a deadline: his room had to be Girl’s cleaning standards by Saturday. Right now I’m watching him on Skype vacuuming his floor, and it’s so hypnotic, lol. He’s proud of himself and I am too, for we can see his floor now.

One problem though. He can’t remember where he put his passport *facepalm*. We hope he didn’t lose it as it had the Customs stamps, and as people would agree, those have a lot of sentimental value!

I can say we have been working on the stress and arguments. We do wanna show that all couples have their good and bad times, there’s no point in denying that (in our opinion, saying otherwise is a delusion). The difference is how much effort they both put in fixing that. And we both put a lot because we’re very stubborn! On a side note, a comment from our last post left us a bit confused. “Sounds like you both need to make more of an effort to make this a permanent thing”. We weren’t quite sure what you meant by that, but if you mean being able to visit each other, we sure are doing a huge effort and sacrifices for that. It’s just not easy when each roundtrip could go for about 1,500-2,000 dollars… If only we would have safe teletransportation available!

Girl.

April 3rd, 2010

Learning from misakes

One thing that these last few weeks have taught me, is that you can never be too careful when it comes to the ones you love. I have said some pretty hurtful things, and I have let myself down, as well as her. Some things can not be forgiven, and some things just scar too deep to let go.

Please learn from my mistake; you have to think about the things you want to say, every word of it. Because if you don’t mean exactly what the words you’re typing, or saying out loud, DON’T SAY THEM! You may not know how much it will hurt your partner.

I am so so sorry my love, I will not let you down like that again.

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On a lighter note, I might be getting a better paying job here soon. Also, she finally got her degree. Congrats Girl!!! I am sorry I couldn’t be there for that. If my job works out, I will be able to see you more than once a year *crosses fingers*. Wish me luck.

Boy.

March 20th, 2010

#26

DST and timezones are evil for LDR couples. It means that one of you is gonna lose sleep, and that once you get used to that pattern, DST changes are gonna throw you off again. IMO the best option is to get a laptop and talk in bed, weird conversations ensue. We have both been pretty stressed out and haven’t had the chance to do that in weeks, but I hope that once things settle down we’ll repeat it.

Girl.

March 13th, 2010

#25

It was one of those weeks again, where the only solution would be just hiding from the world. The bad news weren’t directly related to our relationship, but they affectus being physically together.

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The only good thing that happened in these past 3 days was that our Notebook didn’t get lost in the mail and he got it. We were worried about that.

We also thank you all for reading and commenting, we smile every time we see a new comment on the site. And some have been picking up some (not so hidden) clues. We’ll tell more of our story soon (as much as we can while still being anon), as some people have been asking for how long we’ve been together and stuff like that.

Girl.

March 6th, 2010

#24

True story.

(Then I kicked him to wake up)

Girl.

February 27th, 2010

#23

I love the Wii.

Girl

February 23rd, 2010

Fall

I don’t like February, I never really did. If it was for me, I’d make January have 59 days (ocassionally 60). It’s always humid and rainy, and it’s a clear reminder that school will start up soon in March. Also that summer is leaving, and fall is about to start. I don’t like fall, here you don’t get to see the red and yellow trees, but gray skies and even grayer buildings. It’s such a depressing season for me. I got notice that my graduation ceremony will be on March 26th. Finally, after months of waiting on a date. But I’m bummed. I mean yes, it’s great that they’re fiiiiiinally giving me my title. But he won’t be there, all dressed up in a fancy suit, with his tie the same color as my dress, giving me a long stem rose to go with my diploma-tube. The first thing I thought after getting the call from my uni was ‘what if I bring my netbook and have Skype open’. I’m so crazy I might consider it.

Girl

February 20th, 2010

#22

In occassions, the romantic in me comes out. We had finished watching Beauty and the Beast and the credits were rolling, when I grabbed the boy and tried to dance with him. Sure, it was more clinging to him than dancing, since he’s a lot taller than me, but we just stood there hugging, occassionally moving, listening to the music. He was so red when I turned on the lights, haha.

Two more sketches from the visit left to go… The Notebook is on his way, me hoping it gets there quickly and doesn’t get lost. Sometimes snail mail can be tricky.

One thing that I hate about timezones is that I usually wake up earlier than him (even if we go to sleep at the same time. Poor boy had problems with his knee last night and was in so much pain) and I have to sit around waiting for him to be online… Or am I just making excuses to not do anything until he gets online? I could call and wake him up, but he needs his sleep. I hope you’re feeling better today, dear.

February 14th, 2010

I don’t need a day…

…to remind me to tell you that I love you.

So it’s Valentines day. A day where loved ones are in each others arms and buy sexy clothes, and chocolates and roses…. But what if your loved one isn’t so close, and what if your loved one is from a country that doesn’t really do the whole Valentines thing. Well you kinda ease into it, and make plans for the day you will spend it together. I love her and it’s sad that another year goes by and I’m not with her night and day.  I don’t really need a day of the year to express my love for her. I think the boyfriends that only buy flowers on days like today are a joke. She knows I love her, and I know she loves me.  We don’t  need a day to spark that.

I drew that heart into our notebook a while ago and we have almost filled it, a lot of back and forth and she had made a scrapbook in it of my first trip to see her (we might share some it with you guys).

Boy